First, some housekeeping items. Quixote, I regret to inform you that due to your admission of being a trained feminist, you are under the judgment of God. (See John Holzmann’s post link below. This is what “The Men’s Homeschool Leadership Summit” has decided. You are in big trouble now mister.)
And now to our main topic. Because we should all take pretty-looking internet information seriously.
It is easy to misconstrue spanking and domestic discipline as something violent or mean-spirited. Whether for play, therapy or genuine discipline, it does involve demonstrative physical and emotional actions, so it must be approached with caution. Only proceed if you are sure you know what you are doing. Its [sic] your responsibility. You won’t get any “Just follow these simple instructions – its easy!” stuff from me…
Some or most domestic violence results from one or both partners being genuinely interested in subjugating and harming the other and/or being way out of control due to drug use (including alcohol and excessive caffeine). There’s nothing on this site which will encourage such people. In my opinion, they have no idea how to live. I hope they discover that the pleasure of giving, sharing and facilitating is greater than whatever they get from taking and destroying.
Other loving couples fall into brief but nonetheless extremely dangerous and unacceptable episodes of domestic violence as a result of not understanding themselves, not communicating properly and failing to set limits on behavior which leads to an out-of-control situation.
In particular, if a man does not know that a woman may test his resolve to the bitter end (including with extreme emotional abuse and physical violence), growing more and more frustrated at his failure to put a stop to her rot (asking or pleading with her to stop, or hiding, are not what she is looking for, she needs instructions, warnings and if necessary a long, hard, safe spanking ), then he may lose control and lash out at her with his fists. I hope that this site will help such couples prevent this dangerous and tragic degeneration in their loving relationships. We had a really interesting discussion of women’s “testing”, “ranting” and “bitching” in late October and early November 2001 on the 1HouseholdDiscipline discussion list.
Not weirded out enough by this delightful if non-religious site? Wait, it gets better…
A Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) marriage is simply a traditional, male-led, Christian marriage which utilises aspects of Domestic Discipline. It is set up according to Biblical standards…
He has the responsibility for leading his family and is accountable before God for their well-being and development. He has the authority to spank his wife for disciplinary reasons, but in real CDD marriages, this authority is taken quite seriously and usually happens rarely. Most CDD marriages do use spanking, generally for serious offences, such as the “Four D’s” (Disobedience, Disrespect, Dishonesty, or Dangerous [as in dangerous choices… reckless driving, disobeying doctor’s orders, etc]). Some CDD marriages also use non-corporal disciplines, such as writing lines, or the temporary forfeiture of a favourite privilege.
[and to assist with this, there’s a…Christian Domestic Discipline Site List.]
[UPDATED 2/10/2012 Citational links to creepy stuff removed, as we’re seeing search hits looking for that stuff, and it is not healthy for any woman to be treated or let herself be treated this way. Please seek alternatives to partner abuse and self-abuse. “Domestic discipline” is not love.]
Um, right. I’ll just direct Dave straight over there, unless that would be unsubmissive of me. Maybe he’ll give me lines to write. Ooh la la! Discipline me, honey! (Now…was that comment Disrespect? How do we quantify those serious offences…?)
And even more to the point…
Why is it wives who must receive this kind of treatment? Men never deserve to be disciplined? –Oh! Sorry! I guess I’m showing my feminist side. . . .
I hope I’m not being Dishonest to suggest it, but what an interesting crossroads we’ve come to, where husbands are vetted by form questionnaire and provided with brides primed for this next step into domination-submission. Can’t wait till word gets out (the internet’s great for that), because I bet it could give those tiny super-conservative churches a whole new growth trend from a whole new demographic. Do you see the correlation?